Bailing Out: Sane Way Get Out of Doomed Relationship and Survive with Hope and Self-respectSimon and Schuster, 11/05/2010 - 240 من الصفحات As a leading cognitive behavior therapist, Dr. Barry Lubetkin has heard every excuse there is for staying in a bad relationship: "The time isn't right." "We have to stay together for the children's sake." "It's too late to start another relationship." Created out of fear and guilt, these rationalizations can lead to depression, phobias, and psychosomatic illnesses. But the real problem-- your desire to get out of the bad relationship-- is barely recognized. In "Bailing Out" you'll discover whether you should get out of your relationship, and if so how to make the leap. "Bailing Out" is filled with daily logs, checklists, exercises, and more, including: Step-by-step survival techniques for weathering your breakup Compelling case studies from people who have been there A do-it-yourself "Fear Buster Chart" to help you pinpoint those things that are standing in your way-- and show you how to counteract them with healthy actions Relaxation techniques to help you cope with the anxiety of those first few weeks of sleeping alone, a leaner bank account, single parenthood, the fear of AIDS, and the high cost of divorce But perhaps the most important message in "Bailing Out" is that you can free yourself from a bad relationship-- and happily, healthfully, and confidently survive. |
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... better instincts month after month , year after year , than face the pain of separation . Often , these couples finally do part long after the prolonged combat has worn them down , men- tally and physically . In fact , other than ...
... better instincts month after month , year after year , than face the pain of separation . Often , these couples finally do part long after the prolonged combat has worn them down , men- tally and physically . In fact , other than ...
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... better understand- ing of yourself and by learning new , more effective strategies for coping . Knowing you are better equipped to enter into a relationship , you will be more open for a new experience and much more likely to find the ...
... better understand- ing of yourself and by learning new , more effective strategies for coping . Knowing you are better equipped to enter into a relationship , you will be more open for a new experience and much more likely to find the ...
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... better , " but no one had ever questioned whether this belief was , in fact , true . Once the process of behavioral change was scientifically investigated , more and more focus was placed on the impor- tance of the general learning ...
... better , " but no one had ever questioned whether this belief was , in fact , true . Once the process of behavioral change was scientifically investigated , more and more focus was placed on the impor- tance of the general learning ...
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... better care of your needs by yourself and for building and maintaining good relation- ships , you will develop a more risk - oriented philosophy , one that allows you to peer beyond the confines of your unhappy yet " safe " relationship ...
... better care of your needs by yourself and for building and maintaining good relation- ships , you will develop a more risk - oriented philosophy , one that allows you to peer beyond the confines of your unhappy yet " safe " relationship ...
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... better than most . Even if we weren't together , if I had a serious problem , I would feel comfortable calling him in the middle of the night to discuss it . " • Sharing feelings " I'm open to sharing feelings with my partner , and I ...
... better than most . Even if we weren't together , if I had a serious problem , I would feel comfortable calling him in the middle of the night to discuss it . " • Sharing feelings " I'm open to sharing feelings with my partner , and I ...
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Chapter 2 | 41 |
Chapter 3 | 67 |
Fear of Bailing Out | 119 |
How Do You Bail Out? | 157 |
What Can You Expect When Its Over? | 187 |
Conclusion | 215 |
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الصفحة 102 - Please choose the appropriate answer. 1 = strongly disagree 2 = disagree 3 = neutral 4 = agree 5 = strongly agree Studying business is the right choice for my future career.
الصفحة 108 - ... 1 = Strongly disagree 2 - Disagree 3 = Neither agree nor disagree 4
الصفحة 227 - A DIPLOMATE IN CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY FROM THE AMERICAN BOARD OF PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGY AS WELL AS THE DIPLOMA FROM THE AMERICAN BOARD OF FORENSIC PSYCHOLOGY.
الصفحة 33 - He's there when I wake up in the morning and when I go to bed at night.
الصفحة 140 - I am at peace; my right arm is heavy. My right arm is heavy...
الصفحة 31 - I be more in love with the idea of being in love than with the actual recipient of their affections.
الصفحة 163 - A trial separation is appropriate when you know you need space and you want to keep your options open. You're not absolutely convinced you want to bail out, but you are leaning strongly toward that decision. You need time and space to consolidate your choice.
الصفحة 141 - Keep your shoulders and chest as still as possible. (It might help you to put one hand on your chest and one hand on your stomach to monitor the movement in your chest and stomach.
الصفحة 140 - My left arm is heavy ... My left arm is heavy ... I am at peace . . . My left arm is heavy . . . My left arm is heavy . . . My left arm is heavy.